"Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximise their personal and professional potential" defined by the International Coaching Federation.
Searching for more meaning and purpose?
Whatever your current role, mindful coaching will give you an injection of deeper meaning and purpose. As a manager, a leader, an entrepreneur, a seeker of more balance, you will be juggling many demands from both your external world of performance and achievement, and your own internal world where the challenges are more likely to be judgement, responsibility, criticism, doubt, people pleasing and the need to be a perfectionist.
Who do I work with?
You might be:
• A seeker looking to make sense of this often confusing and choice-laden life; wanting to make decisions that make sense to all parts of you.
• A senior manager in the social sector, who is juggling change and uncertaunty and needs to-step back and gain greater perspective on what’s next: (a restructure, a new project, a new role, retirement)
• An entrepreneur, struggling to handle everything yourself - you could do with someone supporting you to give a fresh and creative view and increased accountability.
• A middle manager juggling work and home life, feeling like you are not doing anything really well, and you are coming off worst
You will learn to be more comfortable and confident with the uncertainty of change in your work and personal life and the transition you can make in finding more ease that comes from being all of yourself. I will coach you to find the best way for you to achieve the purpose and impact you seek.
Why is Mindfulness coaching different?
Gaynor works with clients with their present moment experience. Through the application of mindfulness-based practice, somatic and voice dialogue techniques, as well as management and coaching methods, Gaynor will support and challenge you to gain new perspectives on your present issue or concern. Gaynor will help you see how your thinking processes impacts your behaviours and thoughts and how thoughts can limit your belief in yourself. Gaynor encourages you to access parts of yourself that you are familiar with and those that you have been hiding from or resisting. This might be your courageous part, assertive self, active part, successful self, confident self, compassionate heart, self-doubt, self-critic, the part that feels never good enough.
This enables greater self-awareness. Seeing beyond limiting views and beliefs leads to change and opens up an avenue of choices that you can put into action and feel the difference in the way you live your life.
How can Mindful Coaching help me?
Phrases that have been used to describe her coaching by clients are:
It’s totally empowering
I have a deeper sense of me
It allowed me to be open and non-judgemental
I know my strengths and can use them more wisely
I’ve got greater insight and can see what I need to do now
I’ve got my own vision and now I am getting creative
It’s been challenging, you helped me take a risk on me
It’s practical with real achievable steps
I found humour- it was always there!
Will Gaynor resonate with me - what has she learnt from her own life experience?
Gaynor builds relationships easily. She works in a creative, visionary and practical way, so that you see, feel and experience the difference in your everyday life.
Gaynor's coaching approach has developed through her own experience of needing to get creative and purposeful in working with her “pusher - just do it” energy. It helped make her successful, but became a threat to her health and well-being. The practice of mindfulness and compassion has helped her “rewire” and to harness her “pusher” energy rather than being driven by it.
Gaynor has always had a keen sense of needing balance all her life: the bridge between her rational mind, her knowing heart, and her intuitive self. Gaynor has experienced loss in her life. She lost her Dad when she was young, her best friend in her early 20’s, her Mum in her 40's and recenlty the loss of her younger brother during the pandemic . Her practice has helped create a framework that helps her steer, navigate and explore all the many emotions that arise and appreciate the depth of her own sadness and loss. This gives her immense strenght to live her life from a place of choice.
Gaynor has a dyslexic self, she calls it her "misfit". This is what drew her to work for social justice causes with young people that touched her heart: homelessness, learning disability and mental health. She is comfortable with change and uncertainty and she has used her own strengths to take risks and be creative- developing services that are created and shaped by thoses who access them. Gaynor was involved in successfully developing the first Foyer and then family mediation service in the UK, for young homeless people; she created "practice labs" training and work experience for vulnerable individuals that supported their journey to sustainable work; and set up of a mindfulness community interest company.
Gaynor has worked in charities for over 35 years, as a support worker, manager and as a CEO for over 16 years at Alone in London and Apex Works. She lead on two successful mergers, securing the future of services. She has led on a wide range of change management programmes, including a good to GREAT, 3 year programme. She has held governance roles in different national and international charities for over 25 years. She is currently a founder and chair of Reaching People Consortia.
Her current consultancy passion is evolving the support that is provided by homeless charties into coaching support. Enabling staff to work in a strenght based way, utalising a mindset of learning and growth for themsleves and those they support and coach.
Gaynor teaches mindfulness and coaches individuals and groups to access all their many strengths, creativity and resourcefulness to live a life of purpose, greater ease that results in more conscious impact.
What about impact?
The research is clear- practicing mindfulness mediation will help you live with uncertainty and change, improve communication and make better decisions, be more resilient, think creatively, delegate more successfully and handle difficult relationships that will help you connect with yourself and others more fully. Living your purpose will keep you motivated and maintain your wellbeing.
Practicals you need to know:
Gaynor began coaching in 2006. She belongs to the Mindful Coaching School, accredited by the International Coaching Federation.
● Conact Gaynor for a free session to explore what you would like mindful coaching to clarify and the impact you seek.
● Mindful coaching is provided at Newtown Linford, Leicestershire or via zoom, to suit the needs of the individual or group
Sessions typically last 40 or 80 minutes.
● A 40 mintue session costs £60 and £100 for 80 mintues . There is a reduction for 8 sessions if paid in advance.Please ask.
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What people say
"Through the coaching sessions with Gaynor, I have gained an increased awareness of my personality: what is driving me, what is holding me back. Through voice dialogue, I have learned to notice my triggers and the way I talk to myself. With this awareness, an opening is created for choice: how do I want to talk to myself? How can I be more compassionate instead of more critical? How do I want to show up in the world? Another important aspect is learning the wisdom the body has for us. It knows so much, if only we stop to listen. All of this starts a process of change towards better stress management, more clarity on what is important. The change I have seen in myself is an opening towards self-acceptance and an increased openness and curiosity instead of hard judgement. I recognise my emotions and thought processes, which allows me to deal with them and grow."
Alessandra Bortolussi, Finance Senior Manager, Italy
What people say
“Gaynor has a friendly and personable style that made me feel instantly at ease, valued, and calm. We explored how I could approach Board development with my trustees, and also how I could improve my own resilience and wellbeing. Being a CEO is a lonely and demanding job, and the pressure can make it difficult trust your own judgement when things get tough. The impact of the sessions, for me, has been profound. Gaynor has shown me how to have faith in my capability, my judgement, and my vision. She listened intently, and unpicked for me my true feelings and helped me find my true North.
Gaynor was able to identify key messages from what I was saying, and pin down exactly the things that sparked joy for me. From there, she has helped me create a plan of action which feels both achievable and exciting. I would recommend Gaynor’s coaching to anyone – even if you don’t really feel that coaching would be helpful, I can promise you a session with Gaynor will make you feel you can take on anything!"
Fran Francis - Charity CEO - Sheffield
"I want to thank you for all the work you have done. Your kind, confident and supportive approach has always put me at ease and allowed me to have the confidence to be fully open throughout the process. Everything we’ve done has been truly life changing for me and I feel I finally have the confidence to accept and love my true self (or selves!!). If I’m honest, when you first told me about Voice Dialogue it really scared me! I thought I’d be going back in time to previous lives and trying to connect with them. How wrong I was! All I really wanted to do was to explore “me” in the now and figure out what on earth was going on. And that’s exactly what we did. For many years, I swung like a pendulum between over confidence and low self esteem, feeling pure happiness and then crippling depression. I knew I had different sides to myself and I shut most of them away because they weren’t accepted by others, or by me! By talking to each side, including the ones I didn’t “like” or even felt afraid of, I began to understand them more and by listening to what they had to say you taught me they each had something to offer me. They all have a strong message and, at their core, only want the best for me. By listening to them they each gave me a gift of advice or wisdom. I began the process by thinking I wanted to be one of my selves 100% of the time and if I could just make all the others go away I’d finally be happy.
I now understand that each of those sides of me can be called upon in different situations and the beauty is that when I listen to them they do truly give amazing insight. It’s like having all your friends over for a cuppa and them all giving you advice on the situation at hand - the advice is all different and you can choose which you go with! I’m feel like I am in control now."
"I have found I enjoy life more by understanding myself better. I am aware of my own thoughts and feelings and see clearly how I can positively change the way I see my life to be happier and healthier. I feel stronger and am dealing with difficult situations. I feel that part of being mindful and the way Gaynor’s coaching has helped me is to allow myself to see the present moment - this has given me courage to learn. Mindfulness has become part of my everyday life. I have struggled with mental and physical difficulties but to learn from Gaynor has had a huge impact on me.
Gaynor showed me such emotional regulation and sensitivity toward my needs. I felt her drive and absolute passion to help me."
Helen Nixon - Shield Maiden Rochdale UK
"Gaynor helped me see the blind spots I so mindlessly ignored my entire life and she helped me get in touch with those parts within me that were so desperate for my attention. I feel whole and deeply connected with myself again. Thank you so much Gaynor, you are incredible!”
Silvia Zager Luxembourg
What people say
“The mindful coaching approach Gaynor takes is a very different one to programmes I’ve experienced before. Gaynor takes you on a deeper and more thorough examination of yourself rather than just looking at select issues. I felt the impact very quickly which had a positive effect but is also really useful for the long term and for all aspects of life. A fascinating, helpful and insightful journey.”
SEM communications, Newcastle UK
Latest Blog Posts
Being in nature, the antidote to suffering
Mindfulness in nature. a wonderful blog by Gaynor quilter about how nature helps top soothe the soul.
A bigger container of love
Gaynor writes about how mindfulness and meditation helped her heal the pain from the death of her mother and her younger brother.